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  1. Good Evening Steve,

    I have followed you for some time as the ARA was crafted and passed. With the (unfortunate) chaos and bizarre misinterpretation of the wording, I wonder if you have insight into whether efforts are being made to address the issue of grandfathering in pre-ARA cases and specifically retirement as defined by the govenment/SS?

    Thx so much for all you have done.

    Jim

  2. **You will be surprised that I support you 100 percent when you read my story. It is unique that I do. I do not ask for support (spousal or child) from my very wealthy ex-husband. We dated for four years and were married for 13. The income difference is incredible. My profession is education (teacher) and I make at the most 25,000 a year with a Master’s Degree. My ex-husband makes upwards of 200,000 a year. I have suffered, however, it is important for me as an educated women to move on. I make barely enough to make ends meet, however, I try my best. The family court system is sad, yet I stand by the fact that I simply want to be a mother to our children and do not want to be supported by a man that wanted a divorce. A smile is worth so much more.

    1. You are so much better off without having a controlling financial tie to him. I respect your view and hope that at least you received a fair amount of the marital assets. Feel free to call me if you ever need to talk.

      All the best to you,

      Steve Hitner

  3. Hello Steve
    My name Is Frank Gagliardi
    I am writing to you because you was involved in the N.J. Alimony reform act passed last year. I ve been keeping eye out for any case law for the new law in N.J.
    And came upon some disturbing news {see landers versus landers Feb 22 2016}
    Seems an amendment was put in the bill bywho identify know a sub section j3
    Which basically says if your Final judgement was prior to the new law it doesn’t
    Apply to someone is of legal retirement age and wants to retire.THis very
    Disturbing news since I am approaching this age and per GOV Christie’s Q And A
    I shoild entitled to presume I can retire under the new law.Canyou tell me if
    Is something that was agreed apon or the lawyers slipping in something in the bill to make a mockery of the hard work we all did to get the bill passed
    Would appreciate a reply

    1. Hi Frank,

      Sorry for the delay in my reply. Unfortunately, there are people who have a belief that people need not be self supportive and need to be taken care of. They have a belief that a hard working person has the desire and ability to work well into their 90’s. These lawyers also believe that there is no permanent alimony in New Jersey due to the fact that it ends with the death of the payer. Their outdated and unrealistic philosophical belief is very difficult to overcome. The only way to combat this is to keep at it and never give up in reforming the law. Persistance will win as long as you stay at it.

      Steve Hitner

  4. Steve,

    I am sorry to say that I disagree with your beliefs. I don’t think one party in a marriage owes the other party anything in a breakup or dissolution. If you have children, you should be able to take care of them as well as yourself if you get into a divorce situation or even if you get into a marriage situation. Why does anyone owe you anything? Take some personal responsibility.

    What if the higher earning spouse had died instead of divorcing the lower earner? No one would have to pay a dime. So why does a higher earner have to pay at all, if they no longer want anything to do with the lower earning spouse or vice versa. Why does unaccounted for indentured servitude come into play? That should be completely illegal and unconstitutional.

    But it is not, because the more people hurt each other the more money attorneys make and we are a nation of laws and lawyers. The government encourages this scam and lives are ruined.

    Believe it or not, I, myself have never been married. I don’t surround myself with family law attorneys either. I’m not really involved in the legal system with the exception of having taken two estate planning classes many years ago.

    I am a girl, who like many others before and around me, have always hoped to marry the man of my dreams, someone who will love me and put me first, while they do the same for them. But, of course, reality sets in. I see how horrible people treat each other in relationships. Marriage seems like an institutional scam? You can’t really trust the person you are with unless you are really lucky.

    But it’s all luck. Some couples are lucky and some are not. Some couples are trustworthy to each other and some are not. So legislation basically punishes the unfortunate. Great system. I think they need to scrap the whole thing. Kids should cost a fixed amount every month. Custody should be 50%/50% and no one should be paying anyone. Payments of any kind should be paid only for children’s expenses and should be paid directly to the expense itself.

    You get a receipt everywhere else but family law. Why is divorce a blank check to a low income earner and encouragement for that spouse to be a deadbeat? I’ll tell you why, because it makes more money for the attorneys.

    Sorry to rain on your parade, but I felt compelled to speak up. Have a lovely week. I am sorry for your suffering.

  5. I just reached a settlement thanks in large part to Steve Hitner. He provided me with good counseling and sound advice. Steve’s professionalism, not only in his knowledge of the Massachusetts courts and laws but also in the way he respects you.

    I had been paying Alimony for 20 years with no end in sight. He guided me through good times and bad. He put me in touch with a great attorney and kept in touch with both of us.

    My nightmare is over. Steve is the one to see to help end yours. Good Luck

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